Manage Power Plays and Arguments in Relationships and Heal Them Pt 1

The Part 1 video tells you about a fraught and powerful relationship conflict and powerplay energy that is arising late May to June 2023. These issues that are arising are actually so crucial to know about and watch out for, understand and HEAL – in doing so we can open to love, find love, and become a Power Couple.

Also see my part 2 Video and Blog. But I am writing and videoing here a general post about understanding and managing rows, conflicts, arguments and power plays in relationship, and what to look for, for guidance in your birth charts. I offer some helpful quick pointers in Part 2.

But actually I start with Part 1, which is prompted by the Astrology of Now: This is the Astrology of the end of May and early June 2023.

The two current Astrological energies have especially promoted me to write this post now, at the end of May 2023, the two prompting energies, are as follows:

A Pluto opposition to Venus is gathering at this time.

and also

A Lilith square to an exact Mercury/Uranus conjunction is gathering now.

Let’s look at these, then go on to the Part 2 video and blog about how Astrology can help you identify your personality and relationship scripts.

Part 1: The Astrology of Now

So, as Part 1 of this post, let’s look first of all at the present astrology of the very end of May 2023, and how it will unfold into the first half of June 2023, and then I will go on to refer to the issue of scripts, arguments and power plays in relationships more generally: how Astrology can help you identify yours – and how the identification can bring awareness and help you to Healing.

So, first of all, speaking on 27th May 2023, note that there’s a real challenge to manage our communications and arguments in relationship now.

There’s a super-important call to grow to better understand and manage our relationship scripts.

And there’s such a profound call to understand and manage our innate power play issues.

So the present heart of the matter is TWO BIG planetary energy combinations that are gathering now:


Pluto opposition Venus. Pluto is retrograde at 6 Vedic Capricorn now at the time of this video on May 27th, and the Pluto Venus opposition is exact by 4th June when Venus arrives at 5 Cancer.


A Lilith square Mercury/Uranus aspect is developing now:

Lilith is square Mercury now (with Lilith at 21 Vedic Cancer and Mercury at 17 Vedic Aries), but by 4th June Lilith is square the newly formed Mercury/Uranus conjunction at 26 Aries.

But it’s also very important to note that there are thee big twists to this tale now, in May/June 2023:

Jupiter is conjunct Rahu North Node all this time in Aries:
Jupiter conjunct Rahu magnifies things (but also giving chances for insights to come).


Ketu South Node is still transiting Libra the sign of Relationship:
This has been really forcing us to feel our Relationship Karmas and habits from past life and from the past in this life for a year now.


Saturn is stationary at 12 Vedic Aquarius all this time, turning Retrograde on 17th June at the start of 13 Aquarius:

Note that the slower a planet’s motion in the heavens, the deeper that planet carves its karmic energy into our consciousness and the events in our lives.

Saturn is now impelling us to tie up loose ends, to finish unfinished business now, and to fulfill the karmas that run in our particular life this time.

So if your have natal planets in Aquarius or Leo, or if you have Saturn aspecting your natal Venus or Mars or Mercury, you will find you have little choice but to feel Saturn’s imperative now in the areas of love, sex and relationship and communication – and hopefully grow to fulfill it, and hopefully let go of patterns you just should no longer live by.

OK, So, let’s get back to look somewhat deeper at the two main issues now:

Issue 1:
Pluto opposition Venus in the heavens:

The first thing to say is that this is very sexual. The sexual urge can become much more compelling, even frantic.

Pluto is opposition Venus by 4th June, but note that at the time of writing, on 27th May, Pluto is still opposition Mars (that opposition was exact on 21st May – steamy indeed!!!!! Pluto – Mars – Venus combination!

But the bigger dimension of Pluto opposition Venus is the use of POWER in relationship.

We will be offered lots of revelations as to the power issues that are going on between the two of us.

We mustn’t handle these in explosive couples’ warfare.

We must ‘break’ if conflict flares – then join again in loving sharing and awareness development.

We must recognize the scripts of each of us as to power plays and power-related repetitive habits, and ‘cast a skin’.

See my earlier post about becoming a Power Couple by casting negative skin after negative skin (like two snakes lying side by side, as it were, where snakes’ or ‘serpent energy’ has most anciently signified ‘death and rebirth’ (and magic happenings) see that post:
you can go to:

The post I’m talking about is the third one down the fascinating list:
Becoming a Power Couple in Relationship:
Pt. 1:
Pt. 2:

Leave behind the negative manifestations of Pluto energy, including those you grew up with. Realize instead that Pluto’s higher meaning is Descent to the Underworld, from which like Persephone, we can come into our fuller, proper power.

Issue 2:
Lilith square the Uranus/Mercury Conjunction:

Avoid ‘capping’ or ‘tantruming’ and failing to stand in proper power. Stay committed to strip yourselves of your negative scripts, and let the love shine and grow, now.

With Pluto opposition Venus upcoming and Chiron the Wounded Healer square Venus and Jupiter conjunct Rahu at the start of this period there will be revelations offered to the two of you.

And your communication scripts will be highlighted by the growing Lilith square Mercury/Uranus energy.

Lilith is all about material that is stuffed down into our unconscious and our shadow side, and Lilith includes our ‘buried wild side’ which must come out if you are to be full and whole, but obviously come out in an ethical, loving and aware way.

Agree to move away from the intense dramas, the threats and the tantrums.

Agree to identify and learn about your relationship-negative scripts. Bring the demons to the light and heal them mutually.

Agree to find the space to grow love. Leave behind any history you may have as to bad uses of the divine Mercury principle.

OK, please now go on to the Part 2 video and blog post all about: How Astrology can help us Identify and Heal our Behavioral, communication and Relationship Scripts:

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Ketu South Node Return in your life Be open to Fated Destined Insights and Healings

A person’s Ketu return is the moment when Ketu South Node in the Heavens returns to the point where Ketu South Node was I the Heavens at the moment you were born.

It happens every eighteen and a half years.

It brings into the forefront our consciousness the fate and destiny scripts that we came in with in this lifetime.

If we are off-course for our fate and destiny direction and our personal fulfillment, our life could well melt down because our life path up to now is the wrong one for us.

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Typically, the life-path that must melt down is the life path our parents or teachers or priests or society told us ‘This is who you are!’ ‘This is what your life path MUST be!’ ‘Your life will be easier if you dumbly accept the religious teachings.’ ‘Your life will be easier if you dumbly fit into the political rulings.’

And typically your life-path that must melt down will essentially be HEAVILY full of your past life scripts – the ones you got wrong or incomplete last time. The ones you MUST experience this time so as to heal the negative scripts and karmas from your past life. The ones you incarnated to heal and solve this time.

And typically we will be so VERY unaware of the true nature of all this – UNTIL we start to achieve some spiritual awareness of our scripts and of our karmically/egoically-defined personality that we start with in this life.

It can be so illuminating to look at what happened the previous times you experienced your Ketu Return (at eighteen and a half year intervals) – but note that each Ketu Return is a ratchet of spiritual twists turns and surprises, so: ALWAYS EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED.

This Ketu Return is my fourth (my fifth if you count the moment of birth, but let’s call it four). The first two were life meltdowns and rebirths. The third was marked by the demise of adoptive parent/sibling).

An Astrology reading from me can be so helpful in offering us a definition of our fated scripts, our past life scripts and our incarnational life purpose:

You really do need to be so open to the unexpected if you are really to identify your past life issues clearly.
An Astrology Reading can be so helpful

My wife Maggie Pashley also does past life related healings:

OK, I’ll just share with you, now, the wonderful unexpected I experienced by way of Past Life Readings and Healings that came into my life at the time of my present (my 5th) Ketu return – exact date March 13th!

In my previous three Ketu Returns I had not so fully disentangled myself from my difficult life start and so they were, typically, life-meltdowns and rebirths handled with a lot more unawareness and ignorance.

I have Ketu in Libra in 4th House which is the House of Mother issues, ancestry and family past life issues. Ketu conjunct Sun (I only met my father once). Also my mother was homeless and I was put in a Bon Seccours Convent Orphanage.

So I’ll now tell you as hopefully a helpful guide these TOTALLY UNEXPECTED and WONDERFUL insight and healing experiences I have at the recent time of my 5th Ketu Return:


Bringing Chiron and Lilith into Vedic Astrology:

With a colleague I started a huge project of fitting Lilith and Chiron within the interpretation framework of Vedic Astrology – and a whole sequence of totally unexpected utter wonders of astrological realizations came therefrom:

Chiron is your Existential Wound in the healing of which you can become the Healer of others.

Lilith is what’s crucially fated to be stuffed into your Dark Side, your Shadow side – including your needed connection with your Wild Self.

I’ll give you an example:

Now, the D2 Varga Chart (Divisional Chart) of Vedic Astrology has a system where ancestral wounds can be identified – and these surfaced at this time of my Ketu Return – and I got a lot of key Healing from this West-East Astrology based realization.

My Chiron and my Mars, my Lilith and my Chiron were all separate from my other planets: they were in the Pitris sign of the D2 chart: ancestral influences needing to be understood and healed.

All my other planets were in the other house in my D2.


Past Life Shamanic Journey:

I connected out of the blue with a wonderful young Healer, Jonathan Finn, from Galway near here, and he did a wonderful past life journey where I saw the nature of my natal Chiron conjunct Mars and how in my past lifetimes it had clicked into place. He also offers Hypnotherapy healings for example relating to managing and healing this.

The Healing Modalities that Jonathan offers include Clinical Hypnosis, Mindscaping and Past Life Regression, GHHT and 13th Octave LaHoChi.

Jonathan is joining my LoveStarDating Healers Team shortly: Watch this space!


Past Life Healing:

I had a session with Claire Louise Knifton, one of the Healers on the LoveStarDating.


She put pieces on a board: one to represent my power, one to represent me, one to represent the members of my birth and adoptive families.

She used her psychic power to interpret and heal.

Such realizations and healings came from this work, including my needed decision to draw a line under my toxic adoptive family.


I had guidance from, Anastasia Melidou, a brilliant young astrologer colleague in Crete with an MA in Transpersonal Psychology, who studied my Astrology Chart and interpreted psychically that the ancestors of my birth parents and my adoptive parents were angry at their treatment of me, and she did wonderful on-line journeys to connect me to my Guardian Angel and my strong earlier ancestors.

She also psychically interpreted that my birth mother’s love for my birth father is my Venus/Neptune Unaspected subpersonality in my birth chart.

Her work included Kundalini Healing and Wounded Warrior to Healing Warrior Chiron/Mars work, and more. When healed, Mars will heal Venus.

She too is joining my LoveStarDating Healers Team shortly: Watch this space!


A former shamanic Healer student of mine from the West Indies contacted me unexpectedly from out of the blue. She gave me a wonderful Inner Child Shamanic Healing, where the case of the ‘me aged 13 yrs arose’ – and wonderful healing and love was given. And she said she’d shortly give me some ‘in utero’ healing work that she ‘saw’ was needed: the situation of my homeless mother as I was in utero, and the effects of that one me.


A friend of ours totally unexpected volunteered to give me a particular healing where I ‘lost consciousness’ after about one minute, then arose at the end of the healing feeling so strong and purposeful and healed.


Totally unexpectedly, a Healer who lives near here, who I’d never contacted before, healed me of very long-standing bodily pains at this healing time of my Ketu Return. The pains suddenly got so bad, this healing was fixed up at the last minute: only the day before, and the healing effect was spectacular. The importance of managing my breath was seen to be key, so as to be in charge of the prioritization of my life. Melanie took me within less than a minute into a space of complete peace. Breathwork and posture is important. This is a time of key change – potential I must claim and adhere to.

7. Some tourists on one of my Sacred West of Ireland Tours turned up to go on my Oweynagat – Cave of The Morrigan Tour – the War Goddess of the Iron Age Irish. Medieval manuscripts reveal that this cave was used as a Warrior Initiation cave in the Iron Age. Young Irish Warriors would go in and spend overnight there. The manuscript reveals that some of them lost their minds from the experience, but others emerged as top warriors. When I took the people on the tour into the start of the cave main chamber I asked them (three times): ‘And what are the Fears that you carry that you must now share with The Morrigan. We then crossed deeper into the cave and visualized standing before The Morrigan and making promises to her. She is not to be forgotten or crossed. Read the story of Cú Chulainn!!!

And the point of my mentioning this is that one of the tourists, and American lawyer from Oregon, said that as I had spoken, she had seen one particular past life of mine that was not very nice to mention at all. It totally tied in with the other features of my past life destiny that I came to heal in this life time. She very kindly gave me a two hour healing ritual of the effects of that past life later in that day. I had never met her before. I was so lucky to receive the insight and get the Healing.

My point is: none of these healing and insight experiences were expected. I had mostly never met these people before who suddenly appeared in my life and offered me healing. I was blessed. I got do much Healing. It was needed. It was my Ketu Return.

I debated whether to share personal experiences of my Ketu Return unexpected Healings, but I decided that these were so healing and powerful it could assist readers to get out of the astrological formula and narrow definitions of astrology-related healings if I did.

I wish you all success with your Ketu return.

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